FINDING CONTENTMENT IN YOURSELF

We read about contentment and happiness in books, magazines, the internet and hear it from motivational speakers everyday but what each of these fail to tell us is that no one can guide you through happiness. it is a state of mind which one needs to find own his/her own through trial and error and a lot of drama in between. I have been on the path of moving things around in order to achieve that state but failed every time. In the long run what I have realized is that the problem lies within me. There is no good or bad job and there are no destructive relationships unless you make them to be so. No matter where you work, which country you live in or if you have a supporting family or not, in the end it all depends on how you respond to situations, and not react. 

Meditation and yoga is just a form of excercise which allow you to forget every problem and focus on the moment and that clears our heads of any perceptions we might have of how life should be. It is good to try and improve how one lives and treats others, but before that it is important to treat ourselves with respect and not be swept away in the tide of dissatisfaction of people around us.

DON'T LOSE YOURSELF IN LIFE

In the years I have realized that who you are is not defined by the college you study in or the jobs you've worked in. What matters at the end of the day is that you did not compromise yourself to please others. Life is not short, it is actually a lot longer than we think and if one decides to spend days working in a shit job, under a narcissistic boss and puts oneself down just to please others, then you are making a huge mistake. You start hating yourself and everyone around you and dwelling upon things that don't matter at all.

                            It is all a part of life to figure out what is good for your soul and what's not. And once you know the person you don't want to be, a whole new dimension opens up in your brain. You start liking everything and look for signs that say "DON'T GO THAT WAY". No matter how hard life is or how bad your job is one thing that we have to make sure is that we are not lying to ourselves just because the world wants us to be certain way.  Working in a low paying job is better than working in a Company that doesn't respect its employees. I have experienced all sorts of situations and what I chose to do in the end is what will save me from losing myself. Being independent and having a healthy lifestyle is more important than being miserable, having health issues and earning millions wasting it all away to get better. And trust me when I say this "it will not get better unless you realize what is important to YOU not to others"

                         To give you an example, I was the type of person who need all the money and comfort in life. After 6 or 7 years of being an adult I still need the comfort and money but not on the expense of my Integrity and peace of mind. I can manage not being able to buy a car or not having a big house or not even having a big family, but i refuse to work in a job that makes me miserable and live a life that doesn't match with my inner beliefs. I hope whoever reads this post, if anyone does (no hard feelings), is able to understand what I am trying to say and how such an awakening is important for human beings so that they do not regret the lives they have lead. No one is born a know it all, we all have to experience diverse situations to understand ourselves. Some are sure of everything early on as a teenager or as a young adult and some reach the level of truth and realization when they get older. But it is never too late to be who you are, YOU JUST HAVE TO LET GO...

PS: I am not a spiritual person and this post is not in anyway something you will read on tiny buddha. I only write to express myself and ensure that I am able to capture every moment of freedom and mental peace in my own few, unprofessional posts. :))))))))

THE BOOMERANG GENERATION

I have read so many articles labeling the adults who move to their parent's houses and work in the same cities to save on rent and other unnecessary expenses. It is not wrong to try to save and never be broke. The way I think of the whole situation is that it is not in our control where we are born and the economical conditions of our home city. Some of us really wish to live with their parents and take care of them in the process. Who says that only after you are married is that you are allowed to think of family and sticking with them. Even single youngsters want to stay with their parents and relieve them of their responsibilities and save for their future.

I personally don't want to live away from my parents and I can gladly list out the reasons why?

1. Loneliness and unable to connect with others: It takes such a toll on some people to try and force themselves to adjust according to their roommates, colleagues and the so called fun things-parties and night outs. It is already so hard to find people who think like you and let you be, on top of professional pressure, peer pressure takes a toll on us.

2. The low pay and bad living conditions: I get mad at people who say that everyone has to experience such shitty living conditions to appreciate what is given to us by our parents. My answer to those blabber mouths? I already appreciate it and have had my fair share of it already in College and I refuse to live that way again. Period!

3. Why to pay 50% of your salary on rent ad high food costs: Let me be clear here, I'm not trying to live off of what my parents feed me, what i want to do is pay for the food, electricity and all other expenses in my parents house and not get caught in the high rents landlords in these big cities hoard from me, because to be honest they are over charging you by at least 40%.

4. Don't need no drama: Let's be real here, living in a totally different city with the majority of youngsters who just want to waste their time, spend on booze and junk food and bitch about whoever they see until they pass out. FACE PALM, i refuse to live like that, i need a simple quiet life when I am back from my work, which is enough to suck you of any joy in the world.


I think these reasons are enough to stop bantering the boomerang generation. The unemployed who stay at home just so they don't have to work are the ones who need to be roughed up and for the sake of sanity don't go labeling everyone. YOU'RE HYPOCRITICAL JUDGMENTS ARE NOT REQUIRED :P

PERKS OF WORKING IN YOUR HOMETOWN

I know this post might look like a rant of laziness to some people. But let's face it, not every one thinks and lives the same way. Coming from a middle class family, it is a dream for youngsters alongwith parents that their son/daughter will finish school, graduate from a big university and land a high paying job in the biggest city with the biggest company. As if it is just that simple.

Many of us have had the same goals and want the same future for ourselves but ain't reality a b"*&h.
With the big recession since 2007, it is becoming harder and harder for kids out of grad school to find well paying jobs. And the city life, rent, travel expenses and food expenses are bringing saving to null. You never know when you will be laid off and then how long it will take to get right on track. I have been through the worst living conditions in life during college. Maybe that has set a trauma in my brain which each time forces me to cringe at the mere thought of finding a new place to live in the same city I graduated from which apparently has the most jobs in the Industry.

But my question is Am I willing to live the same way again only to realize in the end that maybe the life in my hometown, where I will work on low paying jobs but it will at least leave me with a non empty bank account, was what really brought me mental peace?. Everyone wants to experience the good, the bad and the evil in their early twenties just to say after long lost years I HAVE LIVED BUT I AM GETTING OLD NOW AND I WANT SOME PEACE. Its an individuals choice I believe and who is to judge?

BE THE CAPTAIN OF YOUR SHIP

The title may sound cliche but one thing people need to realize is that we are responsible for our own downfall. Blaming and making excuses is easy but really finding the solutions to problems is difficult but that is what makes our lives worth living. Each person has a unique personality and perspective on what it means to be a human. some want fame, money while others want love and peace of mind.

                                           

                                            I read a recent article on how unemployed people especially youngsters are committing suicide because living as an unemployed person is more shameful for them than being their own murderers. Since when has humanity lost its core values and come to this? It is important to work hard and contribute to the society and being financially independent also, but just because you can't find work that fits your requirement doesn't mean you are absolutely worthless.

                                           

                                             Every living creature on this earth is unique and has a role to play, either it be as a son, daughter, parent, caretaker or a businessman raising the economy. It is our own duty to find ways and solutions that will make our lives and lives of others around us better in someway. And it is not just the fault of individuals but the whole society is to blame for expecting everyone to live a perfect life. All we need is to accept our life the way it is and take responsibility for our own happiness and satisfaction.